Societal messages about men and sensual activity are often unfair and inaccurate. What’s more, they can be damaging. The portrayal of men as thoughtless sensual drones denies a large portion of men’s sensual realities, part of which includes insecurity. Obtaining sensual health involves addressing insecurities, but, within a society that pretends men shouldn’t have any, even taking the first step of acknowledging them can be difficult. Here, men are encouraged rather to face reality with acceptance. Learn about the following common sensual insecurities men have, and some helpful tips for managing them.
Am I finishing too soon?
Adult videos tell men they should last for an hour or more. But this expectation is highly unrealistic, particularly if sensual activity is fairly consistent (i.e. without a bunch of breaks). The average man only lasts for a few minutes of continual pumping. So if a heated bout “only” lasts five minutes, that’s totally normal.
If couples want to extend playtime, breaking up the pumping with position changes and by switching here and there to different activities, such as oral or using sensual toys on a partner, may help. But the idea that men should be able to thrust away for lengthy periods of time is simply a misconception.
Am I taking too long?
Some men have the opposite concern from that above – and some men have both! Talk about mixed messages. If a man is taking some time to finish, there are two things he can try to abate his anxiety: 1) Make sure his partner is enjoying the time (more on that below), and 2) understand that emission doesn’t always have to be part of sensual activity. Sometimes, a man may simply grow exhausted during a session. If it’s been a particularly lengthy or rough session, his manhood may be getting tender, and the discomfort could inhibit release. And that’s okay.
Am I tiring out too quickly?
All men are supposed to be brawny enough to accomplish Herculean feats, right? No. If the man has been in charge of most of the muscle work during sensual activity and starts to grow tired, there’s no shame in taking a rest or asking one’s partner to get on top for a bit. Of course, it’s generally advisable to maintain good muscular and cardiovascular health. If a man is panting uncontrollably and trembling after a minute of moderate physical activity, he should take it as a sign that he needs to improve his health.
Is she enjoying it?
A huge favor men can do themselves is to turn questions like “Is she enjoying it?” and “Am I doing this right?” into “Do you like this?” and “What would you like me to do?” Take the mystery out of it. Give her what she wants by asking what that is.
Did she finish?
Again, ask! And let her know one doesn’t expect the answer to be yes. Don’t feel embarrassed – it can be difficult to tell moans and writhing associated with sensual pleasure from the moans and writhing of the big finish. If she says no, a man can ask if she’d like him to do something in particular to help get her there.
Is my male organ big enough?
Unless a man has a micro-male organ – a medical condition in which male organ size negatively impacts a man’s ability to have sensual activity – then yes, his male organ is big enough.
The above sensual insecurities can hold a man back in his sensual life, and a couple back from having the most fulfilling activity possible. What’s more, sensual activity is good for the health of the male organ. Other steps men can take to boost member wellness are using lubricant during sensual activities and applying a male organ health crème (health professionals recommend Man1 Man Oil) daily. Man1 Man Oil contains Shea butter and vitamin E, which are two moisturizers that can protect the skin from chafing that often results from the frictions of hands and bodies. Keep the skin healthy and the manhood ready for the next romp with a quality male organ health crème.
Visit http://www.menshealthfirst.com for additional information on most common male organ health issues, tips on improving organ sensitivity and what to do to maintain a healthy manhood. John Dugan is a professional writer who specializes in men’s health issues and is an ongoing contributing writer to numerous websites.
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